Empowering Young Girls: Nobody can make you inferior without your permission

Trophy Kiprono, Public Speaking and Communications Coach, Communications Specialist, Writer and Life Coach. She holds transformative training sessions with young girls. PHOTO/Courtesy (Supplied).
Trophy Kiprono, Public Speaking and Communications Coach, Communications Specialist, Writer and Life Coach. She holds transformative training sessions with young girls. PHOTO/Courtesy (Supplied).
  • The rise of online bullying further fuels these challenges, as the virtual space provides a mask for those who look to undermine the confidence of others.
  • With social media, the narrative around beauty standards is being reshaped by a new generation of young girls, and it’s important to equip them with the tools to navigate this digital transformation.
  • Beyond the personal, Ms. Kiprono’s insights prompt a discussion on the importance of digital literacy and critical thinking.

In a space dominated by social media and digital connectivity, the quest for self-esteem among young girls has been pronounced. The advent of social media, while bringing people together, has also brought about a shadow on the self-esteem of young girls who find themselves grappling with the pressures of an online world that often dictates unrealistic standards of beauty, success, and popularity.

Social media platforms, with their carefully curated images and polished narratives, have become both a source of inspiration and a breeding ground for self-doubt.

The relentless comparison with the seemingly perfect lives of peers can lead to a damaging cycle of negative self-perception.

The rise of online bullying further fuels these challenges, as the virtual space provides a mask for those who look to undermine the confidence of others.

Navigating confidence and body image

In a recent post by Trophy Kiprono, a public speaking and communications coach on her LinkedIn profile, she provided a glimpse into discussions that were held during one of her transformative training sessions with young girls.

During this session, Ms. Kiprono took a unique approach by encouraging the girls to anonymously pose questions they might be hesitant to raise publicly.

What emerged from this exercise was a statistic, with half of the anonymous inquiries converging on themes of confidence, body image, and the struggle to feel conventionally beautiful.

The candid nature of these questions highlighted the prevailing issue among young girls – the internal battle against societal expectations and self-imposed standards.

One particularly resonant thread in the anonymous queries was the curiosity surrounding Ms. Kiprono’s personal experiences with body issues and whether she had faced body shaming.

The perception of her as an extremely confident girl prompted these inquisitive minds to seek reassurance that even the seemingly unassailable contend with the same struggles.

“I’ve never fit society’s conventional standards of beauty. However, Kiprono, in response, met these queries with a light-hearted chuckle, “In my mind, I consider myself the most attractive person I know.

Not even Beyoncé has anything on me!” She acknowledges that she may not align with everyone’s beauty standards, which is perfectly fine, and it is not their job to like her but rather her job to love herself.

She refuses to place the power of her self-validation in someone else’s hands.

Breaking the mold

In a moment of playful defiance against societal norms, Ms. Kiprono boldly addresses the absurdity of the expectations for girls to be shorter. She dismissed this notion with a lighthearted demeanor, quipping, “Too tall, and you’re considered intimidating to guys.

Well, who wants a man intimidated by height?” this light-hearted yet impactful response highlights the societal pressures that young girls often face, encouraging them to embrace their natural attributes, regardless of the unrealistic expectations.

Ms. Kiprono highlights, “Confidence doesn’t happen overnight,” she shared.

“It’s a challenging journey of self-awareness, self-loathing, and self-sabotage until one day you can look in the mirror and proclaim, “I’m the most beautiful person I know.”

This candid acknowledgment of the difficult path to self-assurance resonates with the struggles faced by many young girls navigating the turbulent waters of self-esteem.

Ms. Kiprono’s words highlight that confidence is not a destination but a transformative journey requiring patience and self-discovery. Loving oneself, Kiprono emphasized, goes beyond surface-level acceptance.

“It involves accepting your quirks, making peace with your body, and being your friend,” she imparted.

Her insights highlight the profound truth that self-love is not contingent on societal standards or external validations but is an internal process of embracing all facets of one’s being.

To reinforce this lesson, Ms. Kiprono turned to the words of Anais Nin: “My mission is to find peace with exactly who and what I am, taking pride in my thoughts, appearance, talents, and flaws. I aim to stop the incessant worry that I can’t be loved as I am.”

Thus powerful quiet becomes a cornerstone in the journey toward self-acceptance, inspiring young girls to embrace their uniqueness and find solace in the authenticity of their individuality.

Rewriting the digital script

With social media, the narrative around beauty standards is being reshaped by a new generation of young girls, and it’s important to equip them with the tools to navigate this digital transformation.

Ms. Kiprono’s insights, extend further into cyberbullying, body image, and body-shaming –these insights offer a foundation for a broader conversation about empowering girls to redefine beauty standards in the digital age.

The digital world often portrays an idealized version of reality. Empowering girls to embrace authenticity over perfection becomes key.

By highlighting the beauty in imperfections and quirks, young girls can challenge the conventional standards perpetuated online, thus fostering a culture that celebrates uniqueness.

Beyond the personal, Ms. Kiprono’s insights prompt a discussion on the importance of digital literacy and critical thinking.

Educating young girls about the manipulative nature of digitally altered images and the impact of cyberbullying equips them to navigate the digital space with discernment.

By fostering a mindset that questions unrealistic standards, girls can actively contribute to reshaping the narrative around beauty.

Cultivating support

Ms. Kiprono’s emphasis on self-love as an internal process aligns with the idea of cultivating a supportive digital community.

Encouraging girls to surround themselves with positivity online and seek out platforms that promote diversity and inclusion contributes to a healthier online experience.

By actively engaging with content that uplifts rather than diminishes, they create a more affirming digital landscape.

In addition, the digital age presents an opportunity for young girls not just to be consumers but creators of content. Ms. Kiprono’s insights lay the foundation for empowering girls as digital advocates.

Encouraging them to use their voices to challenge societal norms, share diverse narratives, and promote body positivity amplifies their influence in shaping the digital conversation around beauty standards.

Let us, dear readers, take these lessons to heart and take on a collective mission to redefine these standards.

As guardians of self-worth, young girls can reshape the narrative, celebrating authenticity over perfection, embracing digital literacy, and empowering themselves as digital advocates.

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Empowered and united, we can shape a future where every girl looks in the mirror and proclaims, “Damn, I’m the most beautiful person I know!”

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Ms. Karangah is a content creator, with a passion for stories around health, lifestyle, poetry, and education, among others. She believes that stories have a profound way of connecting us to each other and they help us understand the people around us, to build empathy and create change. Her contact: shirukarangah@gmail.com

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