A positive attitude encompasses seeing the bright side of life, both mentally and emotionally, and choosing to remain optimistic about yourself, your interactions and amidst hard situations. It is remaining hopeful even when there seems to be no reason for hope.
Apart from upbringing, which bears the biggest power to shape and reflect our personalities, daily life behaviors, ways of perceiving things and responding to emotions mirror our personality. That is why no two people can be similar.
Your personality will always reflect in your daily discourses and interactions with people. It eventually influences and shapes our values, expectations and beliefs.
To develop your personality and be able to gain more confidence, raise your self-esteem and embrace better approaches to the issues of life, building a positive attitude is one of the pillars you need.
Have confidence and trust in yourself: In developing your personality, confidence and self-trust are paramount. People who believe in themselves tend to have more positive energy than those who doubt their abilities. Always remind yourself that you’re better than you think of yourself.
Instead of letting other people define you and manipulate your way of life, offer your best and walk head high. “Smart appearance, good apparel and grooming help to maintain high self-esteem which in turn contributes towards a positive attitude,” says Aspi Cawasji, a Consultant and Corporate Skill Development specialist.
Learn to view things differently: As in the words of author Naomi Remen, “Most of us lead far more meaningful lives than we know. Often finding meaning is not about doing things differently, it is about seeing familiar things in new ways.”
When you see opportunities in challenges instead of seeing challenges in opportunities, life becomes more enjoyable. A different eye for things and life’s experiences will enable your mind to build a positive attitude towards life and take your personality a notch higher.
Embrace gratitude:The best way to be grateful is by spending your time doing something which not only puts a glimmer into your eyes but also leaves your footprints in the minds of society.
Giving to society, counting your blessings and naming them one by one, appreciating what you have and working towards what you want to achieve, will all bring a feeling of thanksgiving to you. A grateful heart remains positive and hopeful, even when facing the mountains of life.
Find more reasons to smile: While many a time you may only think about the hardships and disappointments that life brings along, recalling moments of joy will put a smile on your face.
Experts have pointed out that smiling puts positive energy into our veins and boosts the mood. It also releases cortisol and endorphins, which add health benefits to the body. Besides any challenge you may find yourself in, there’s a reason to smile.
Smiling often will make you joyous and able to deal with disturbing and stressful experiences more optimistically. In turn, this shapes your personality and makes you seem more likable, courteous and competent.
Associate yourself with positive-minded people: You cannot fly if you stay with people who keep on plucking your feathers off.
For you to move ahead, it is wise to be in the company of those who hold similar goals and pursue similar interests as you. Have no space for negative energy.
Recognize bad influences and consciously stay away from them. The people you spend time with will significantly contribute to your way of seeing things, beliefs and attitude towards life.
Embrace concentration and practice meditation: A game, a challenge, a puzzle, an intentional flashback, or even physical exercise will help your mind to concentrate on one thing at a time.
These help in training the mind to focus, exposing your weaknesses to yourself and allowing you to make amends. Positivity requires you to meditate and make decisions from within, affecting and influencing your way of life.
Meditation will carry you out of your cluttered mind into the present moment and help you to lead a healthier life that is no longer entangled in negative thoughts, emotions and stress. To positively develop your personality, concentration and positive meditation remain key.
Expect to face hard times and disappointments:While still hoping for the best, accepting the fact that uncertain days are on the way and expecting them, yet preparing to positively face them, will help you remain positive and energized.
Being prepared early in advance helps you not to be taken unawares and thrown into confusion. Positivism is built on dealing with the issues of the present while expecting more challenges in the future and equipping yourself for the war.
A personality founded in such expectations is always strong because nothing comes as a surprise.
Devote time to self-improvement and avoid criticizing others: A positive attitude takes time to nurture. It takes time to learn how to see the positive side of things, most of which are not positive by themselves.
You have to carve out some time regularly and work on your weak parts on matter positive attitude if you want to shape and maintain a good personality. A personality developed and surrounded by a positive attitude sees the good in other people rather than criticizing them.
As Rasheed Ogunlaru put it, “When you feel that others are lacking and failing …, first assess the skill, style, quality, results, mindset, support, professionalism and spirit with which you yourself play the game.”
Improve your approach to issues and appreciate the diversity of approaches in people instead of seeing them as failures simply because they embrace methods different from the ones you prefer.
A positive attitude and personality are grown and nurtured. It will take time to become the best version of yourself.
Brian Tracy put it better altogether: “Your mind is like a garden. If you do not deliberately plant flowers and tend them carefully, weeds will grow without any encouragement at all.”
The positive side of life must be labored for and continually developed or else the negative side, full of negative energy, will effortlessly take over and lead you awry.
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